Oh Boy, We’re Having a Baby - First Trimester Update
In the mist of my hiatus from the blog world and social media, I was knee deep in handling a family health issue with my Dad this past winter. My days were filled with hospital food, waiting to talk to medical teams, updating my family, working remotely for work & keeping it all together for my mom, my husband & my daughter. Many that are close to me know that I’ve been thru a lot with my family when it comes to health issues & scares from a very young age. Yet going through this series of unfortunate, bad luck events rocked me to my core. I change as a person completely during this time because I realized that no matter how bad things may have been, I knew it was for a reason. Or at least that’s what I told myself. My family needed to go through the mud. Maybe to make us stronger. Maybe to teach us gratitude for all the many things we did already have. Or maybe simply to remind us that we only get 1 life to live so it’s important to do what you want with the time we have. As one could image, my head was filled with countless questions that I desperately was seeking answers too. I found myself praying A LOT for strength to deal with everything on my plate and for glimmers of HOPE that a light would be at the end of this dark, long tunnel.
I remember feeling funny and not myself during this time and simply attested it to the high stress, emotionally charged days I was living at the moment. It wasn’t until I realized I was late, that I I had an OH SHIT I’m pregnant moment. It was the light I had prayed for. Within a few days, I confirmed that Baby Nunez #2 would be arriving this July and the fears of the unknown completely sank in. Because of the everything my family was experience, I felt a huge sense of guilt for being “happy” during a time of uncertainty and anguish. Baby Nunez was seriously the happiness thing to happen to me and my family this past winter. It was something Alexis & I wanted and felt extremely blessed to be able to do it all over again. But I didn’t want anything to come in the way, so I hide it from pretty much everyone. The fear of losing my baby plagued my mind everyday. I convinced myself if no one knew and something happened, it would be better because I wouldn’t have to explain or talk about any details. After the weeks went by and the dust settled with my father, I realized I need to let go of this fear and let people in again..slowly. We privately began to tell our loved ones, close friends and employees/coworkers during the holidays whenever we had a chance to talk to them or hang out since I really wasn’t into “celebrating” too much.
By the beginning of the new year, the excitement couldn’t be contained and Alexis & I began to plan how we wanted to handle this pregnancy from the gender reveal, nursery design, name search, etc. Things were obviously difference this time around than when I had Penelope, first because we were having a BOY (yay!) and second because every pregnancy has its differences. So I thought it would be fun to share trimester updates on what I’ve experienced, how baby prepping is going and create this little time capsule as I count down till Baby Harrison's arrival.
So here’s what happened in those first 12 weeks:
Morning Sickness… it’s not just if you are having a babygirl. I know all the Old Wives Tales say if you are making daily trips to the bathroom it’s a girl and for Penelope that totally reigned true. But I dare say I experience extreme nausea with this pregnancy and look at that, we’re having a boy. To help combat these pesky daily occurrences I found that drinking sparkling water always helped, snacking often (nuts, cheese, fruit), anti nausea candy/lollipops sometimes did the trick aside from my medicine and old faithful, TUMS.
You may not necessary “show” as quickly as you think even the second time around. With Penny, I barely showed till easily 6 months and barely wore maternity clothes. Although I personally feel bigger this time around, I really didn’t showed the first trimester and was able to wear my normal clothes the first 12 weeks. If you do happen to pop a little sooner than you were hoping, invest in some maternity clothes so you feel comfortable. I’ve found amazing deals at Target, Old Navy and Asos on leggings, denim and tops all under $25 each.
Watch what you are eating from the beginning and try to stay active. This was something I did my first time around (minus the active portion) and I really felt it overall helped me with gaining weight in accordance to where my doctor wanted me to be, have a safe and speedy delivery while also helping with breastfeeding journey. This time around I’m much more active since my days are filled with running around after a toddler, but I also try to walk daily, take the stairs over an elevator whenever I can and make smarter dining choices throughout the week, so I can indulge when it’s worth it (ie. a slice of Fireman Derek’s Salted Carmen Pie) lol
Keep yourself organized on goals before baby (registry, toddler activities, etc.) and plan ahead so you don’t feel overwhelmed. Because I’m a type A control freak when it comes to certain aspects of my life, I can very easily feel overwhelmed quickly since I tend to take on a lot at once. I really try to give myself goals each week to check off my endless to-do list so that I can breathe more as the weeks roll by. Baby shower venue, theme and decor elements were all worked on about three months before my actual shower and I registry just a few weeks ago (half in store and half online) once I did an inventory of things I still had vs. thing we needed. Since I have a busy few weeks ahead, any moment of free time I have is filled I make sure to keep busy getting gifts, doing things around the house, and etc. The goal is to relax and not have to worry about any last minute projects prior to Harry’s birth. Keeping a weekly list, tracking projects and asking for help when you need it has really been a lifesaver for me especially with work being extra busy this time of year for my client.
Enjoy the moment since it goes by faster this time. It feels like so long ago when I found out I was pregnant and I still can’t believe how fast it has gone by. Although I opted for no gender reveal or big announcement/party, make sure you take in these special moments and document however you’d like. I really wanted to challenge myself to write down and share this experience (including taking more photos which I’m horrible at) since I want to look back in the future and have these memories to read about this since you just sometimes forget.
Lastly, I really want to thank my immediate family, close friends, coworkers and our love ones for all there support during my father’s medical emergency & throughout his recovery. I’m happy to report that he is progressing everyday & expected to make a FULL recovery in the upcoming weeks with some out patient physical therapy.
Hope you all enjoyed going through this pregnancy journey with me. I’ll be sharing what I’ve been happening during my second trimester in a few weeks so be on the look out. Also linking my blog post on what I learned my first time as a mom here in case, in case any new Moms may be reading this and want more info! Looking forward to hearing what you all have experienced with your pregnancies and what I should be expecting as the weeks go by.